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livredor
Dear libido,
Thursday, 12 April 2007 at 09:00 pm
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Yes, it's spring. I'm glad you noticed. You can shut up about it any time now though. Really.

I may have discovered a cute boy who appreciates my breasts. But cute boy lives in a different country and besides, he has other things to do than gratify your unreasoned cravings.

It's not that I begrudge you your fun, but seriously. I'm not a teenager any more. Get a grip!

Exasperatedly yours,
Liv


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From:ploni_bat_ploni
Date:April 12th, 2007 09:29 pm (UTC)
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You know what the solution to an overactive libido is?

Planning a wedding.

Yes, it's that simple. :-)
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livredor: Amelie
From:livredor
Date:April 14th, 2007 09:19 pm (UTC)
2 days after journal entry, 10:19 pm (livredor's time)
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I have heard quite often that marriage reduces sex drive. But it's too drastic a cure for me; I would definitely rather be single and a bit frustated than married even if that let me be relaxed in my body.
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From:doseybat
Date:April 12th, 2007 10:43 pm (UTC)
3 hours after journal entry, April 13th, 2007 01:43 am (doseybat's time)
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The theory goes that it gets worse until you are 35ish before getting any better. (Peak for men is about 18, though, massive gender difference.) Sorry if thats not very helpful!
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From:timeplease
Date:April 12th, 2007 11:01 pm (UTC)
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Yes, I think the peak at 18 is about right. Maybe a bit later. It's still annoying that it's part of my life I haven't sorted out (and apparently have no plan for doing so either).


...I have a plan?!
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From:doseybat
Date:April 12th, 2007 11:26 pm (UTC)
4 hours after journal entry, April 13th, 2007 02:26 am (doseybat's time)
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ooh, a plan? *wobbles eyebrows*
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From:timeplease
Date:April 12th, 2007 11:35 pm (UTC)
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No, no plan whatsoever. Hence the '?' and the '!'.

I suppose I've never felt that getting together with anyone was particularly urgent. Apart from moderate ongoing angst, I don't know whether this is going to kick in at all. I've seen all kinds of bad stuff that happens when people get involved, and that's made me thankful that I've missed it. On the other hand, I do wonder if there's something good I'm missing out on...
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From:doseybat
Date:April 12th, 2007 11:59 pm (UTC)
4 hours after journal entry, April 13th, 2007 02:59 am (doseybat's time)
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I would say that while a good relationship is better than status quo, a bad relationship is far worse than status quo; not sure if I am stating the obvious here. Would agree with the lack of urgency too, one advantage of being male is there being much less urgency. (but internet is your friend)
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From:timeplease
Date:April 13th, 2007 12:02 am (UTC)
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The "less urgency" is presumably the biological thing?

I get the occasional twinges of "you're wasting your life!" and try to ignore them.
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From:doseybat
Date:April 13th, 2007 12:26 am (UTC)
5 hours after journal entry, 03:26 am (doseybat's time)
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Why wasting life? That implies that the point of life is to have a relationship, which I really do not think is the case. Not that I am a great expert on what the point *is*..

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From:pplfichi
Date:April 13th, 2007 02:31 pm (UTC)
19 hours after journal entry, 03:31 pm (pplfichi's time)
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Peak for men is about 18

For some, maybe...
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From:livredor
Date:April 14th, 2007 09:27 pm (UTC)
2 days after journal entry, 10:27 pm (livredor's time)
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I am not totally convinced by that popular wisdom, and even if it's true on average there has got to be wide variation between individuals. But I suspect I have a while to go before I grow out of this kind of nonsense, so I need to find some other solution than just waiting until I get old.
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From:hairyears
Date:April 12th, 2007 11:06 pm (UTC)
3 hours after journal entry, April 13th, 2007 12:06 am (hairyears's time)
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Some points and pointers which you may find helpful:
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From:doseybat
Date:April 13th, 2007 12:01 am (UTC)
4 hours after journal entry, 03:01 am (doseybat's time)
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no point opposing your libido

It would be nice to be able to strike a bargain with your libido and come to some sort of civilised arrangement, I feel.
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From:timeplease
Date:April 13th, 2007 12:02 am (UTC)
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a bargain with your libido

How might that work?
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From:doseybat
Date:April 13th, 2007 12:27 am (UTC)
5 hours after journal entry, 03:27 am (doseybat's time)
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Well, you could promise that if it left you alone this spring, you would reimburse it next spring. Or something.
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From:redbird
Date:April 13th, 2007 01:21 am (UTC)
6 hours after journal entry, April 12th, 2007 09:21 pm (redbird's time)
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Or offer it alternate Sunday afternoons?
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From:adrian_turtle
Date:April 14th, 2007 07:41 am (UTC)
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Sex doesn't always have to involve a partner. This is particularly true when you're just trying to indulge your libido and gratify cravings that are getting in the way of other things you'd like to think about. You don't have to worry about hurting a vibrator's feelings if you ignore it for 2 weeks.
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From:timeplease
Date:April 13th, 2007 11:34 am (UTC)
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But that's what I told it last year! And the year before that, and the year before that.
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From:livredor
Date:April 14th, 2007 09:37 pm (UTC)
2 days after journal entry, 10:37 pm (livredor's time)
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Hm, this is all good advice, but it's not really relevant to the specific issue that I'm complaining about. I have been talking to the cute boy; don't imagine that I'm stupid enough to rely on semi-cryptic LJ posts instead of direct communication. The reason why we're not having hot monkey sex is a lot more to do with geography than my making unjustified pessimistic assumptions.

And this is really not the kind of post I would make if I were trying to convince either my friends or myself that I am chaste or asexual! I'm not opposing my libido in the least, I'm just whining because external factors prevent me from indulging it.
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From:hairyears
Date:April 14th, 2007 10:19 pm (UTC)
2 days after journal entry, 11:19 pm (hairyears's time)
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That's a relief!

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From:pir_anha
Date:April 13th, 2007 10:19 am (UTC)
15 hours after journal entry, 03:19 am (pir_anha's time)

Re: Dear libido

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welcome to the club. mine is still totally off the scale and it is BOTHERSOME.

though, as somebody else said, don't write the cute boy off without consulting his view of it -- if your view leans towards doing something about it, that is. i strongly prefer to be consulted before other people write off any potential interest of mine, and figure it's only polite to extend others the same courtesy. :)

oh, i have a fitting usericon. *cackle*.
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From:livredor
Date:April 14th, 2007 09:42 pm (UTC)
2 days after journal entry, 10:42 pm (livredor's time)
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Ugh, I'm sorry you're still being bothered by that. Of course you don't keep complaining about the same problem.

And I do have enough sense to realize that hints in LJ posts do not make for good communication! I have been talking to the cute boy directly, and not at all writing him off. The fact still remains that he is not in the same country as me, so even if we do arrange to meet up and see how things develop at some point, it doesn't justify being fixated on sex more of the time than is really convenient right now.
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