Not sheepish, but individ-ewe-al (livredor) wrote,
Not sheepish, but individ-ewe-al

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You've probably seen OKCupid by now, and either joined if you're going to or worked out that it's the kind of thing that you absolutely despise. Me, I found myself signing up because personality quizzes are one of my vices. That would be why my u/n on the system is 'livredor'; I was expecting one of those LJ memes, or I'd have chosen a more sensible handle.

A few thoughts, because I'm being self-indulgent, mainly. For my results, well, I came out as "Deliberate Gentle Love Dreamer", which they call 'The Sonnet', viz:
Romantic, hopeful, and composed. You are the Sonnet. Get it? Composed?

Sonnets want Love and have high ideals about it. They're conscientious people, caring & careful. You yourself have deep convictions, and you devote a lot of thought to romance and what it should be. This will frighten away most potential mates, but that's okay, because you're very choosy with your affections anyway. You'd absolutely refuse to date someone dumber than you, for instance.

Lovers who share your idealized perspective, or who are at least willing to totally throw themselves into a relationship, will be very, very happy with you. And you with them. You're already selfless and compassionate, and with the right partner, there's no doubt you can be sensual, even adventurously so.

You probably have lots of female friends, and they have a special soft spot for you. Babies do, too, at the tippy-top of their baby skulls.
Hm, that sounds something like me, but probably rather nicer than I think of myself. But you know what really annoys me? The results are strictly divided by gender, which means that exactly the same answers are going to give a different result depending what gender you are. As it happens, I think DGLD (male) 'The Slow Dancer' is a rather better description of me:
Steady, reliable, and cradling her tenderly. Take a deep breath, and let it out real are The Slow Dancer.

Your focus is love, not sex, and for your age, you have average experience. But you're a great, thoughtful guy, and your love life improves every year. There's also a powerful elimination process working in your favor: most Playboy types get stuck raising unwanted kids before you even begin settling down. The women left over will be hot and yours. Your ideal woman is someone intimate, intelligent, and very supportive.

While you're not exactly the life of the party, you do thrive in small groups of smart people. Your circle of friends is extra tight and it's HIGHLY likely they're just like you. You appreciate symmetry in relationships.
I'm not going to begin to go into the sexist assumptions behind how this quiz result thinks that people of pretty similar personality types are going to be perceived, based on, of all things, gender. But anyway.

So far, so dull. I wanted to mention this site, though, because I think it only slightly misses being very, very cool. It's set up by the same people who used to run the old Sparkmatch site, which I was completely addicted to. Same principle, little personality quiz as bait which allows a big enough userbase to be built up that there's a good chance of meeting new people, access to just the right amount of information about other users, and a well-organized messaging system. The feature where users can add new questions is quite a nice twist, though I think that's going to hit a limit; there's only so many questions one can ask in that context. So far the most informative seem to be along the lines of 'how do you feel about polyamory', which is kind of fair enough.

What makes it less cool than Sparkmatch is that it's too heavily focussed on the dating side. Sparkmatch worked because it was a good way to simply meet people, (also I found it to be surprisingly good for random cybersex, but my views about sex in text-based media are probably for another post, and anyway this hasn't been a consideration for me for some years), as well as to look for potential partners. What it misses that the old Sparkmatch had was a feature where you could add friends' emails and see how compatible you were with them. Yes, I'm obsessed with things that are good for networking, whereas OKCupid is very much about one-to-one interactions. That said, within a couple of hours of joining, I was having interesting conversations with strangers. And thanks to OKCupid, I have a new Moomin on my friends list! *waves to mummimamma*
My P'tite soeur is just starting to appreciate the potential of the internet now that she's at uni (though she'll probably always be rather less geeky than I am). Anyway, I decided to google for her just to see how much of a presence she now has, and I was surprised to find that someone (entirely random) has published a poem that P'tite Soeur wrote for some children's poetry competition (she was one of the winners, which is how the poem ended up being published at all) when she was in primary school. I really should stop being surprised by what turns up on the web!
And finally, Du hast sounds really, really silly in English. It quite possibly sounds silly in German too, but I'm less likely to be aware of that in a foreign language. Also, some of the associations that I have, as an English person, with German possibly make it seem rather apt for that style of song, with lots of shouting and too much beat. And I was so proud of myself for figuring out the German puns that I really can't tell whether it's any great loss that they aren't present in the translated version.

Edited 9.2.04: corrected song title; thanks for spotting that, rysmiel.

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